Summary: Is there a good time when you should ask people about their plastic surgery history? Honestly, a lot depends on the person and on the procedures. Some plastic surgery procedures are a little more personal than others. Much will also depend on how well you know the person in question.
When Should You Ask People About Their Plastic Surgery?
There have been numerous celebrities in the news talking about their plastic surgery procedures. There has been even more speculation among gossip columnists. And it all tends to be a bit forward. What about in real life? Should you ask people about their plastic surgery?
There are plenty of conversational topics that require a little bit of, shall we say, etiquette. And plastic surgery is no different. You should probably not walk up to a total stranger and ask if they’ve had plastic surgery done. That would be unwise (and, frankly, pretty rude).
However, there are some other ways to broach the subject if you really want to—but it’s important to remember that no one really owes you an answer. And if you’re on the opposite side of things, there are plenty of ways to avoid answering questions about plastic surgery.
How to Ask About Plastic Surgery
Plastic surgery is a sensitive topic. There are many reasons for this, but chief among them is likely the stigma that is often still attached to these aesthetic and cosmetic procedures. There’s a sense that people who undergo plastic surgery are somehow shallow or self-absorbed.
That’s unfortunate because it tends to be quite untrue. There’s also the fact that many people tend to look at plastic surgery as something they’ve done to improve their confidence or self-esteem. So, there are a couple of ways you can ask about this.
Questions to Ask
First and foremost, do not ask something like, “Have you had work done?” Avoid that kind of question. Instead, try something like:
- Your face looks amazing. Have you been getting more sleep?
- You look great. Have you been doing something different lately?
- You seem really upbeat lately.
- You seem really confident. What’s your secret?
The trick is to give them an out to not say something. They might answer your question about “doing something different” by saying something about diet or exercise. If someone wants to divulge plastic surgery at this point, they surely could. But they don’t have to. And there’s a graceful way to get out of the conversation.
It’s also important not to force the issue. If someone wants to keep their plastic surgery private, that’s their right.
How to Avoid Questions About Plastic Surgery
So let’s put the shoe on the other foot, shall we. What if you’ve already undergone a plastic surgery procedure and people start asking about it. Hopefully, anybody asking is quite tactful. But that’s not always the case. Somehow, many people think that plastic surgery of any kind is by default public knowledge.
We don’t agree with this. But it’s not unheard of for someone to blurt out a question about plastic surgery. How should you handle that kind of thing?
Ways to Avoid
If it’s a stranger asking these questions, we usually recommend adopting a strategy from high school: ignoring bullies. But if it’s friends or family asking, things can get a little bit harder. Here’s what we suggest:
- You could polite insist on changing the subject. Say something like, “I’m not really comfortable talking about that.”
- You could suggest a different cause of why you look so good: “I’ve been getting more sleep lately.” Or something like, “I’ve changed up my diet and exercise routine.”
- Finally, you could blame the clothes. You could suggest that your clothes are simply fitting you a little bit better these days.
Of course, you could always also simply confirm that you’ve had plastic surgery done. There’s absolutely no shame in that—plastic surgery is incredibly common these days and the boost in confidence and self-esteem are often the primary pay offs.
Keeping Things Personal
There are going to be some procedures that are easier to hide than others. A tummy tuck patient in Orange County, CA might have some troubles hiding that. A patient of rhinoplasty in Fairfield County, CT, might have similar difficulties. But not all procedures lead to results that are difficult to hide.
In many cases, you’ll be in charge of how much of your results anyone else is allowed to see. And in those cases where results are visible and obvious, preparing yourself to answer questions can help you handle many potentially awkward situations before they arise.
Ultimately, you are the only one who gets to decide how transparent you want to be with your plastic surgery procedure. Should you ask people about their plastic surgery? Only if they’re comfortable talking about it. Otherwise, they have every right to change the subject.