What is Your Breast Augmentation Story?
Breast augmentation, or “mammoplasty,” is one of the most popular cosmetic surgeries regularly performed. However, it’s also an intensely personal process and decision. Part of the reason that breast augmentation is so common is because breasts are a fairly noticeable part of a woman’s body. As such, breast augmentations can be a noticeable change: How can you go about telling your acquaintances, friends, and family about your breast augmentation? Do you wait for them to notice your different body, or do you tell them before the surgery is performed? Is it worthwhile to tell your coworkers or those people that you just don’t know very well?
Part of the challenge of telling your breast augmentation story, as New Jersey breast augmentation specialists East Coast Plastic Surgery explain, is that “unfortunately, not everyone views breast augmentation in a positive light. Breasts are seen as sexual objects. Often times, people will make the assumption that anyone undergoing breast augmentation must be doing it for attention, or they want to look like a “stripper” or “porn star,” or they’re trying to hold on to their partner, etc. These are very narrow minded points of view, but even in this modern age, there are people that still feel this way.”
Especially due to the nature of breast augmentation surgery, there are a myriad of reasons to undergo the procedure: Some women want to increase the size of their breasts, but others simply want to correct asymmetry or augment volume post-weight loss. Whichever your reason for undergoing this major surgery, know that first and foremost, it’s your story to tell. The decision is a personal one, and you don’t need to tell a single soul in the world if you don’t want to. Once you realize that it’s your body, your decision, and your choice, the rest will fall into place, even if it isn’t always comfortable.
Telling A Significant Other
Again, keeping your surgery a secret (or not!) is 100% your call. However, if you’re seeing someone, married, or dating a significant other, this type of secret can be hard to keep. As X says, “this is your significant other, not your roommate from college. Your decisions affect them, so they should have the right to contribute to the conversation.” Many women who undergo a breast augmentation, or desire to do so, find it healthy and useful to discuss the situation with their significant other before proceeding.
Step 1: Tell them how you feel. Make sure that your significant other understands your rationale, even if they don’t agree with it. X gives another good piece of advice about the conversation, noting a particularly important detail: “Important: Be sure your SO understands that your lack of confidence or insecurities have nothing to do with them. (P.S. If they do, then getting breast implants will not fix that and you two should dive into those insecurities with a good pastor or counselor.)” Now we’re not here to give relationship advice, but just like with anything, you should make it clear that you feel this is the best choice for you, for whatever reason. Are you excited about your breast augmentation? Give them the opportunity to share in that joy.
Step 2: Talk About the Risks: Together. Surgery is not something to undergo without careful and deliberate consideration, no matter how complicated/uncomplicated it is. Giving a significant other the chance to share in the conversation by reviewing the health risks, implications, and potential complications together is a great step to take. Maybe they can join you on your visit to a certified plastic surgeon, or maybe you can give more detail on conversations you and your surgeon have had. Either way, make sure that their questions about your surgery are answered to the best of your ability, making both of you more comfortable in the long run.
Step 3: Invite Them In. Approximately 300,000 thousand women each year undergo breast augmentation surgery: That’s no small number. Many have found that inviting their significant other to consultations or office visits can help to alleviate any insecurities in a variety of areas. Some partners are concerned that they won’t like the way the newly augmented breasts feel, so invite them to touch and feel the options during your initial consultation. They can ask the doctor questions, feel what your new breasts will feel like, and help you research the best and most effective surgeons to work with. Invite them into the process, and they may feel much more comfortable with what you’re about to undergo.
Is any option perfect? Probably not, and every couple is different. Your partner will feel differently about this choice based on a variety of factors, not the least of which will be your history and experiences as a couple. This can be a hard conversation to have, but you’ll be happy you had it.
How Should I Tell Everybody Else?
As always, this question is personal. However, it’s pretty standard to expect that you’ll have quite a few questions from those around you about what your surgery will entail, particularly your family and your friends. Remember, “if you feel as if the questions that your friends and family are asking are becoming too invasive or they are considering a breast augmentation for themselves, you can direct them to information from your plastic surgeon to obtain any additional information they are looking for.” It isn’t your job to become the know-it-all breast guru on augmentation procedures. All you can do is tell your story.
“Do I HAVE to tell anyone?” If you don’t want to stand on a table in your office and announce to all your coworkers that you’ve gotten a boob job, that is A-Okay. Not close with your in-laws? Fine, don’t call them unless you want to. Don’t want to explain your decision to your family members? Sure thing, sister. However, not telling anyone means a few different things. First, if there are medical complications of any kind, you might be caught between a rock and a hard place when there’s no one to call. Second, secrets are notoriously hard to keep, and you might want to cut through any potential rumors or murmurings by addressing a fairly obvious change head-on. There are downsides to keeping it secret, but no, you never HAVE to tell anyone anything that you don’t want to.
“How Can I Ease the Transition?” If you’re really intent on keeping a secret or gradually easing into a new breast size, consider options like padded bras leading up to the surgery or loose clothing afterwards, just so that the change isn’t quite so dramatic. Sometimes, you can chalk it up to a fantastic padded bra, and people won’t necessarily ask questions.
“Should I Lie About It?” The thing is, cosmetic surgery is designed to alter your physical, aesthetic appearance. So when these changes occur, the surgery is simply being successful. Lying about a blatantly different physical alteration is difficult to do and may cause more anxiety than simply telling the truth.
The process should be exciting and joyful, not something to dread or feel discouraged by. With care, time, and thoughtfulness, you’ll be able to share your story with whomever you choose, whenever you choose.
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